Originally found on: the-scattered-pearls
Ibn al-Qayyim said,
"Seek out your heart in three places:
1) When listening to the Qur’aan,
2) In the gatherings of [Allaah’s] remembrance,
3) and when [alone] in privacy.
And if you do not find it in these places, then ask
Allaah to grant you a heart - for verily,
you do not have one.”
It is a shame that Muslim men seem to think they are the enforcers of female modesty, and excused from modesty of their own.
Your wife is not a piece of machinery that can be turned on and off on your demand. She has needs, feelings and emotions that must be satisfied. Show a sincere interest in her needs and you will see her come closer to you. Ignore her needs and you will only push her further away from you.